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David Rakoff (1964-2012)

The first time I met David Rakoff, he offered me food and food and more food. It was 2007, just after Thanksgiving. With typical munificence, David had made too much of it. It became very clear from David’s steadfast concern and his adamant offers, in which he also insinuated that he kept some modular storehouse in neat hidden niches throughout his modest Union Square apartment, that this wasn’t some commonplace matter of fobbing off leftovers, so much as an opportunity to feed every spare mouth he could find. And that included overly prepared literary journalists. The man was an entertainer. It extended to his conversations. It extended to his kitchen. It was always there in his work.

“There is little in this world that I find more galvanizing than someone in trouble,” Rakoff once wrote. “I am well aware of how dubious that sounds, coming from someone who makes a living writing in the first person.”

David wrote his essays extremely slow: just three slim yet pithy books (Fraud, Don’t Get Too Comfortable, and Half Empty) in a little less than a decade. And this deliberate snail’s pace had much to do with the high neuroses David brought to the writing process. I once pointed out a few vaguely similar images he had used over a few essays. And David, mortified, put his hand to his mouth and cried out, “I’m a hack!” I then spent several minutes ensuring Rakoff that he wasn’t. In a world besotted with writers who recycle their own paragraphs or who fabricate quotes, David’s commitment to the original must also be memorialized. He was a man so committed to precise language that, during a 2010 interview, David and I spent five minutes looking up the word “vitiate” to ensure that we both understood its nuances.

Last year, David won a well-deserved James Thurber Prize for American Humor. Like many of our great wits, he was a man determined to dazzle you in high style with bountiful modifers. Here is how Rakoff described an unhappy couple he observed on New Year’s Day in his essay “Tokyo Story”:

He began that unmistakable wet-mouthed, lip-smacking, compulsive swallowing that indicates the impending need to vomit. His upper lip shone with perspiration, and his eyes were closed. The woman had nowhere to go — indeed, there was nothing else she would be able to do until the train reached the station, and that might not be in sufficient time. If the first thing you do on the first day augurs the spirit and tone of your new year, this woman was in for a very bad 1987.

David described giggling at this woman, but he pointed out that the joke was on him, for 1987 was to be his shitty year. Such vicious ironies would race throughout his life, yet David would receive them with realism and good humor. A self-described therapy junkie, it was hardly accidental that, years later, he read Julie Norem’s The Positive Power of Negative Thinking very carefully (yet became so consumed in his research that he was never able to write a piece about it). At 22, he was hit with Hodgkin’s lymphoma, but managed to beat the cancerous rap after eighteen months of treatment. But in 2010, he was diagnosed with a malignant tumor and, in one of life’s malicious replays, was forced to start chemotherapy again. But this didn’t stop him from living. From “Another Shoe”:

I try to comfort myself with the first-person accounts I’ve heard of those who die on operating tables and come back: the light, the warmth, and the surge of love from one’s dead ancestors urging you forward. But even that doesn’t help as I wonder what on earth the Old World, necromancing Litvak primitives from whom I am descended would make of me? You’re forty-four and not married? You’re a what? We had one in the shtetl and he was chased from the town with brickbats. How much treyf do you eat? What kind of writing? And from this you make a living?

Here was a man who personally apologized to me for having to stop tape every 30 minutes to take the medication that was keeping him alive. The apology was unnecessary. I told David that if he didn’t want to talk, we didn’t have to. But for David, the show had to go on. The man summoned some wonder to the very end.

Last night, David lost his battle with cancer. But we still have the three books, the many This American Life appearances, and David’s quiet suggestion that a comic yet realistic dignity is an extraordinary defense against life’s cruel setbacks.

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  1. [...] world is a little less great because David Rakoff has passed away.  Edward Champion shares his thoughts.  We’d also suggest reading Rakoff’s wonderful story about moving to New York, [...]

  2. i am so sad. i have never felt saddened by a celebrity death before now, so this is a strange feeling for me, being sad about someone i have never met. but david’s writing, and his readings, meant so much to me, were so open and personal and naked. i felt like i knew him. i always wanted to know him. i imagined us as friends, although i was always sure that should i meet him it would be awkward. i am entirely emptied by this loss.
    my only solace is that i saw him dance, on stage, during the most recent live performance of This American Life. His movement was the most beautiful thing I have seen in years. I miss his unwritten books and his untold stories already.

  3. Scott McCrickard August 10, 2012 at 9:34 am

    What a great tribute to a talented man. He will be missed, but we are blessed with the writing he left behind.
    The show WILL go on!

  4. Wow – had no idea his time was nearing an end. We’ve always loved his work on TAL and his wonderful insights. It seems particularly unreal as we watched him dance on stage in the live TAL movie just a few short months ago. We’ll miss him, many will miss him. We lost a wonderful voice and I’m sure a great person.

  5. it is so very hard to believe that he’s gone. i too saw him dance just months ago and while it was clear he was sick, he did not look frail or headed toward the end. what a gift to have seen that show and his beautiful movement. i think we are emptied out by the death of anyone that has touched us. his writing felt like so much of my own voice, my own thoughts, my own insanity and humor, that to lose that voice is a bit like losing part of my own. it is a powerful thing to read a page and find yourself there in the type. an incredibly powerful thing. for those of us who found that in his writing, it is a deep loss indeed.

  6. Elise’s sentiments match mine perfectly. I am bereft.

  7. Russell Joel Brown August 10, 2012 at 11:39 am

    I am so sorry to hear of David’s passing. I only had occasion to meet and work with him once, in North Carolina for Symphony Space’s Selected Shorts. He was gracious, charming, incredibly funny, and warm. I was immediately “a fan”. I will miss him.

  8. Thanks for posting this beautiful in memoriam, Ed.

  9. [...] writer David Rakoff has passed away. He was 47 years [...]

  10. [...] | The New York Times | The Awl | Reluctant Habits | The Forward Humorist and author David Rakoff, 47, died Thursday. Rakoff, who had cancer, was [...]

  11. […] His three essay collections were published over 11 years, a relatively low level of output that the writer Edward Champion, who met Rakoff several times, put down to “the high neuroses David brought to the writing process.” […]

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